I hope you guys had a great weekend. I was a bridesmaid in one of my close friend’s wedding on Saturday. I got a little emotional during my speech because we’ve been friends a long time. We’ve been single together and really did a lot together. Even though our friendship will change now that she’s a married woman, I’m super happy for her. The wedding turned out great, she looked beautiful and the food was super yummy. Instead of cake for everyone, the couple decided to get cupcakes from this local bakery. The first time tasted these cupcakes, I fell in love. They were so moist and flavorful, so I was happy that they would be at the wedding. However I was so full from dinner, I decided to take my cupcake home.
As I usually do with a lot of things I love or enjoy, I shared something about this cupcake on one of my social media accounts. One of my followers send me a reply saying, “Another cupcake?” As if to say, “You just mentioned a cupcake last week, why are you having another one?” And my reply was “Yup, another one. If I could eat them every day I would.” This person went on trying to shame me about eating a cupcake. She said she would never eat a cupcake every day because that would prevent her from being able to wear bikinis. I get it. Her body is great. But for me this conversation was not about the cupcake. It was about the delivery of her words. She came across very condescending and that irritated me. What works for you, may not work for someone else.
I’m sharing this with you because I feel like delivery is EVERYTHING. I speak about being positive all the time and try to spread it with others I come cross. The conversation I had with my follower yesterday could have taken a completely different turn if she hadn’t come at me in an “I’m better than you” type of attitude. I’m the first person to admit I am not perfect. I’m trying to increase the amount of time I spend working out each week, but in the meantime I try to eat healthy and keep the fridge stacked with fresh veggies and fruit. Each person is their own individual. So if I want to enjoy an occasional cupcake, I will.
Some people have great discipline and self-control. For me, discipline has NEVER been one of my favorite words; I prefer balance. I do what I can, without putting limitations on myself or my abilities, always knowing that I have the strength to go harder, I just have to work at it, one day at a time. So this week as you are going about your life, try to appreciate the differences in people without judging them. Rather than tear someone down, build them up. Rather than look down on someone, help them get to your level. There’s a way to be positive and encouraging without being condescending.
Here’s a little motivation for your Monday.